(“Is that an enormous rattle in your diaper or are you just happy to see me?”)

Maybe diapers are something he enjoys wearing during alone time, or maybe the sight of him in diapers makes the sexual aspect hard to deny. (And if diapers really do make adults feel safe-and I wanna see data on that-we could rebrand them as “portable individual safe spaces” and make them available at our better universities.)Īnother clue there’s something sexual about this thing for diapers: not wanting you around while he wears them. That said, DIAPERS, “this makes me feel safe” and “this makes my dick hard” aren’t mutually exclusive phenomena. So he may have told you there’s nothing sexual about his thing for diapers because he thinks it makes his diapers seem less sordid. Seeing as he’s already succumbed to shame where his kink is concerned-or it might be more accurate to say he hasn’t dug himself out from under the shame almost all kinksters struggle with initially-he is very likely weighed down by the sex-negativity that comes bundled with kink-shame. You have a hard time believing PNB when he says there’s nothing sexual about his interest in diapers, and that makes two of us. Even if your assumption is accurate, it could still put him on the defensive. (Some only wear, never fill.) It sounds like PNB is struggling with kink- and/or sex-shame, DIAPERS, and the assumption you’ve made about the extent of his diaper play might put him on the defensive. Most guys who are ABDL (adult baby/diaper lover) are interested only in wetting themselves, if that. You shouldn’t assume (contra your sign-off) that Potential New Boyfriend (PNB) is pooping his diapers. Do I Ask Pooper Everything Respectfully, Sir? If you have any insight into what to ask him or how to make sure I can keep him satisfied sexually as we move forward (if we do), it would be appreciated.

He also said that it embarrasses him and he wishes it wasn’t something he needed. He said he doesn’t want me to do it with him, but that every once in a while he likes to wear them because it makes him feel “safe.” He said that this odd behavior isn’t sexual for him, but I have trouble believing him.

Sex is good, and we’re faulty compatible in other ways, too. I’ve been dating a nice guy for a month or so. Whoops! There was an error and we couldn't process your subscription.

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